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The Lies We Learn to Believe
There are some things you don’t question until one day—you do.
Like the words, they spoke over you.
The way they made you feel small.
The way you thought it was your fault.
And let’s be real—you didn’t just wake up feeling unworthy. Someone taught you that.
It was how they dismissed you, criticized you, and walked away, making it seem like you were the problem.
For so long, I believed what they said about me. I carried their words like scripture like they were facts and meant something about me.
Until one day, you ask yourself...
"What if their words were never about me?"
Why Their Words Had Nothing to Do with You
Listen to me—hurt people hurt people. You're familiar with that term
People speak from their wounds, their fears, their traumas.
When someone belittles you, it’s because they feel small.
When someone abandons you, it’s because they’ve never learned how to stay.
When someone hurts you, it’s because they don’t know how to heal.
And I need you to catch this—that doesn’t make it okay. That doesn’t mean what they did didn’t hurt. But what it does mean is that their words, their actions, their rejection?
None of that was about you.
And yet, we still carry it.
We let their opinions shape how we see ourselves.
We let their choices make us feel unworthy of love.
We let their inability to love us properly convince us that we are somehow unlovable.
But baby, you were never broken.
You just believed people who were.
The Hardest Part About Healing—And How to Move Through It
The hardest part of healing isn’t knowing the truth. It’s accepting it.
Because when you finally realize that their words were never about you, there’s a shift. And with that shift comes anger.
Angry at them for making you believe the lie.
Angry at yourself for holding onto it for so long.
Angry because you wasted so much time thinking you were the problem.
And let me tell you—that anger is valid.
But I need you to know you can’t heal while holding onto blame.
So, how do you move through it? How do you let it go? Here’s what I’ve learned:
1. Name the Lie
What did they say that made you believe you weren’t enough?
What moment made you start questioning your worth?
You can’t heal what you won’t acknowledge. So call it out. Write it down. Say it out loud. But don’t let it sit in the shadows anymore.
2. Challenge It
Now ask yourself—was it ever really true?
If someone told you that you were “too much,” was that about you… or their inability to handle your light?
If someone made you feel unlovable, was that about you… or their own struggle with love?
You have to flip the script. Their words were a mirror of them, not a reflection of you.
3. Rewrite the Truth
Now that you’ve called out the lie, it’s time to replace it.
If they told you that you weren’t enough, you remind yourself: I have always been more than enough.
If they abandoned you, you affirm I am worthy of people who choose me fully.
If they broke you down, you would declare, "I am whole, loved, worthy."
And don’t just say it once. Say it every time that old story creeps back in. You’ve been carrying their words for years. Now, it’s time to carry your own.
What It Means to Forgive (And Why It’s Not About Them)
Let’s get one thing straight—forgiveness isn’t about them. It never was.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did was okay.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to let them back in.
Forgiveness doesn’t even mean you have to tell them you forgive them.
Forgiveness is about you. It’s about making peace with the past so it no longer controls your present.
It’s looking at what happened, not to relive it—but to release it.
And more than anything, forgiveness is about forgiving yourself.
For believing the lie.
For carrying their pain as if it were yours.
Forever thinking you were anything less than whole.
Because you, my love, were never the problem.
And their words? They were never the truth.
So today, I want you to make a choice:
To start releasing what isn’t yours.
To start reclaiming your worth.
To start living like you are already whole.
Because you are.
With love and strength
Vee
